Sharing a residence with someone often raises a variety of issues, but when a smoker and non-smoker live together, compromise is a must or the co-residency is not going to work out. Both people paying the mortgage or the rent must be in agreement on the rules they set regarding cigarette smoking. One way of compromising is to allow smoking outside the home while keeping the home interior smoke-free. This way, everyone can be happy and nobody is going to be pushed into quitting a habit they are not ready to give up.
When the time comes that the smoker wants to have a cigarette, the partners or roommates are going to appreciate the fact that the smoker goes outside for it. That’s because smoking outside offers many benefits to both parties sharing a residence.
For the non-smoker, the benefits include not having to smell something they find unappealing. What’s more, they don’t have to see ashtrays filled with butts. As cigarette smoke can also cause staining to furnishings and décor, it is an added bonus to not have it inside the home. The smoker will also find this beneficial, as they also live in the home.
For the smoker, he or she can enjoy some alone time when smoking outside. This can be very beneficial when first getting home from work or before going to bed. Another benefit is not having to hear any more complaints about smoking inside the house.
The smoker may find it frustrating to go outside every time they want a cigarette, but it does not have to be that way. To eliminate any resentment, do your best to set up a smoking area where the smoker can relax and enjoy him or herself. The patio can make a great place to go when the smoker wants a relaxing environment. If you live in a location that has cold winter weather, you may want to set up a small area in your garage. Adding a comfortable chair will help create a private nook. For the smoker, choosing to go outdoors when they want a cigarette can be tough, but if they spend enough time creating a comfortable smoking area for themselves, they may just find that they look forward to going outside.
If the smoker still finds that they are not too happy about the fact that they cannot smoke inside the home, they should think about how much easier it is to compromise on the issue. Smokers should also consider how things could turn out if they chose to break the rules that have been agreed upon together. Arguing about something like smoking could turn into a more serious argument. This is not good for any relationship and is worse if children are involved.
The fact is that smokers and non-smokers can live together, as long as each one is willing to compromise on the issues, even though they may be on opposite sides.
For more detailed information about living with a smoker, read How a Smoker and Non-Smoker Can Live Together.